I wrote this post a couple of years ago but apparently, not everyone was paying attention because we still have issues… big issues. Here it is again with a few updates… I hope it works this time.
I gave up writing New Year’s resolutions for myself years ago. As a kid, it was kind of fun to put together a list every year but, as I got older, I came to realize that they really never amounted to much. In the end, and despite my good intentions, there were few pounds lost and no better habits gained. Yep, I was pretty much the same old me after a month or two into the new year.
So, rather than come up with resolutions just for myself, I have decided to make one big resolution for EVERYONE to share. I figure that, with us all working together, supporting each other, and gently nudging those that falter back on track, maybe, just maybe, we can succeed.
My resolution for the masses:
Don’t be Stupid
The best thing about this resolution for you is, like me, you aren’t stupid at all, so your part will be easy. Just make sure that everyone else doesn’t mess up.
Here is a list of 10 ways your fellow humans can avoid being stupid. It’s far from complete.
- Don’t text or talk on the phone while driving. Competent multi-tasking is a myth. Even if it wasn’t, the task of piloting a vehicle that weighs over 3,000 pounds requires complete attention. This level of stupid could end up killing someone.
- Same goes for drinking and driving.
- Don’t believe everything you read, hear, or see on the Internet – check things out. Develop a healthy skepticism. Believing that a secret child-trafficking ring operated out of a Washington pizza parlor was stupid. Thinking that there are random people following you on Facebook and that you can block them one-by-one from your search bar is stupid. Reposting these fake stories (even with the caveat “this could be a hoax, but I’m posting it just in case”) makes the poster’s stupidity evident to all 1,000 of their closest friends. Snopes.com and Factcheck.com are your friends. So are critical thinking skills.
- Don’t equate the accumulation of things with the building of happiness. We all like a certain amount of stuff, but chances are the good feeling we get from acquiring something new will not last. Think about acquiring experiences and accumulating memories instead. Travel, spend time with family and friends, learn a new skill.
- Don’t over-inflate. I’m not talking about weight here (although, it could be argued that not properly nourishing and caring for the only body we have is kind of stupid); I mean the tendency to take a small incident and inflate it into something much greater. The controversy over whatever color or design is on the seasonal Starbucks cup comes to mind, as do many stories reported on cable news. Over-inflating creates cultural distortion and promotes misinformation.
- Don’t miss out on glorious vistas or the witnessing of actual events because it seemed more important to take and post selfies. The magnificence of the Grand Canyon isn’t improved with duck-lipped faces in front of it.
- Don’t compare yourself physically to models and celebrities. Chances are that they don’t even really look like that. Photoshop and good lighting can do wonders.
- Don’t dig your own grave. You’ll get there soon enough as it is. Stop maintaining habits that are self-destructive, staying in relationships that are toxic, and dwelling on negative thoughts. If you like digging around in the dirt, better to plant a garden.
- Don’t ever pass up an opportunity to pay a sincere compliment or tell someone that you love them.
- Don’t forget to live your best life. Always. It’s the only one you’ll get.
Have a wonderful, safe New Year’s celebration! And, please watch out for stupid people (especially those mentioned in #1 and #2).
90 thoughts on “A New Year’s Resolution for EVERYONE”
Hi, Janis – This is BRILLIANT! And just what I needed to read (how did you know)?
I’m off to share this on my SM.
Wishing you and Paul a happy, healthy and peaceful 2018.
Hey Donna – Happy New Year to you and Richard too! Thanks for the share.
Happy New Year!!!
Thank you! Enjoy your New Year also!
Fine advice. Will take it and pass it on! Here’s to a less-stupid 2018!
That is certainly something to toast to! Happy New Year to you (and watch out for “those” people).
I’ll look out for them. And as its unlikely that I will be out after 6 pm, should be relatively safe.
This year-end post has a good pile of sound of advice. If all people would only half of your recommendations for good living, the world would be a better place. I liked the one warning against over-inflating. Over-inflated egos need a prick every once in a while to let the hot air. Best wishes for 2018!
There is a lot of over-inflation going on that’s for sure. Both umbrage and egos need to be taken down a notch or two (or three). Have a great 2018!
Let’s hope more people pay attention this year, Janis, because this is great advice. And the world would be a whole lot saner and safer if people would only listen to you!
I know, right? I tell my husband the same thing but he just rolls his eyes. Happy New Year to you Donna!
Wow! That’s great ! Thank you for this post…
live the best life!!!😊
Happy New Year and God bless you!
Absolutely! Best wishes to you for enjoying your best life in 2018, and beyond!
Great list! Happy New Year!
Happy great and wondrous New Year to you also!
Happy New Year! That’s a great list!
Thank you! Have a happy, fun-filled New Year too!
really great list –
I especially loved 3 cos I think we are living in a society that is being dumbed down – maybe stupid is the word afterall – per your post – but esp when it comes to issues of health – we trust in doctors who are pushing drugs to manage symptoms and people have stopped asking for root causes cos they think (conditioned to think this way) that the experts know all – when they don’t – the US is ranked 37th in health care and yet we have thousands of folks in bankruptcy for medical costs and no cures. but the pharm companies grow richer as people grow sicker –
and getting back to your list – love the don’t inflate – hah!
but 9 was the closing heart tug – so true – let’s lavishly offer those verbal affirmations and terms of endearment – life is too short not too and those words can be spinach for the soul and mood.
happy new year
I’m with you about our dysfunctional healthcare system (love “spinach” for the soul and mood). I can be one of those dummies who doesn’t verbalize my affirmations enough, a shortcoming which I need to work on. And, speaking of that, thank you for your smart and generous comment. Best wishes for a wonderful, healthy 2018!
best wishes to you too and hope to stay connected in blog land in 2018
OMG too perfect and so simple. Thanks for the tips and I’m definitely sharing. Happy New Year to you, Janis. Glad we connected this year.
Happy New Year to you too! I am also glad we connected and look forward to following your blog in 2018!
Absolutely agree – what a wonderful post! Happy New Year to you and lets hope more people are listening this time.
We can only hope, right? Happy New Year to you!
A wonderful list and such great reminders. Happy New Year, Janis!!
Best wishes to you for an amazing 2018!
Excellent advice. Happy New Year!
Happy New Year to you and your family (furry or not) Dan!
I’m printing this one out, Janis, so I can share it with my non-Internet friends and refer to it often. If anyone gives a prize for best resolutions post, you should win it.
Haha! Maybe this is the year that we all shed stupidity and live our best lives. Best wishes to you for a creative, adventurous, and healthy New Year!
Great list and worth repeating!! Happy New Year!
Happy New Year to you!
Just brilliant! Worth repeating….be prepared to repeat again. It takes time for people to get the idea….
Maybe that’s it… it just takes time to sink in. Have a wonderful New Year!
Great advice! Have a great New Year!
Best New Year’s wishes to you, Kate!
Great post Janis! I believe you and I are on the same page. Here’s to less stupidity in 2018. Happy New Year to you and your family.
I’m crossing my fingers that the world will experience a noticeable decline in the stupidity index. Happy New Year to you also!
Happy non-stupid new year! I’ll do my best to comply 😉
I’m pretty sure that none of my blogging buddies have issues with any of the items on the list. Best New Year’s wishes to you too!
Every point on your list is great, and I agree with them all. I hope lots of people take them to heart.
Happy New Year. 🙂
Let’s hope for much less craziness in 2018! Happy New Year to you also!
Thanks for the perfect New Year’s resolution, Janis. I hope your new year is the best yet.
Thanks, Joe! Best wishes to you and your family for a magical 2018 that is full of adventure!
Excellent advice!! And you’re right, we need to see them again this year. I hope you have a wonderful new year!
Wouldn’t it have been great if I could have retired this post? Alas, I must try again to straighten things out :). Best wishes to you, Ann, for a wonderful New Year!
Thanks, Denise. Have a great New Year!
I remember this one! And you’re right, hardly anyone followed your instructions. So all of this madness is your fault, Janis????!!!! Good, I like having a scapegoat. Great post, thanks again for sharing (and updating). Happy New Year! – Marty
Well, I tried… The sad thing is that it was easy to update with all new examples of stupidity. Wishing you and Gorgeous a wonderful New Year!
OMG you had me roaring once again. Spot on. Just shared it on Twitter because I couldn’t have said it any better #wisdom
I’m glad I made you laugh… and thanks for the share! Maybe it will work this year… or not.
I hope your wisdom takes hold in 2018! Couldn’t help but share. Loved it!
Happy New Year Janis! And yes to NOT BEING STUPID!!! Instead be SMART 😉 hahahaha! Actually very SMART advice for us all. And especially, as you say, “Don’t forget to live your best life. Always. It’s the only one you’ll get.” ~Kathy
Happy New Year to you too! Let’s hope that this is the year we all SMARTen up and make great decisions!
A great list. I’m printing this out, and it’s going up on my refrigerator!
Thanks, Tom! Have a wonderful 2018.
I just sit and shake my head as I read these, and know (and have seen so many like them) that they are all true and continue to be. Nothing like road trips in holiday traffic to see driving stupidity in action. And why do people think they can’t be seen looking at their cell phones while either driving or sitting at a red light (or green for the REALLY stupid ones)? You captured these wells with your wit and wisdom, Janis! Can’t wait to see you and Liesbet in a couple days 🙂
We were in holiday traffic too and witnessed the craziness first hand. I wish there was a way to automatically disable all cell phones as soon as the car engine starts. How did we ever live without being able to stay connected AT ALL TIMES?
See you soon, Terri!
This is wonderful! Sharing!
Thank you for sharing!
You ought to tweak and post every year because we all need the reminders. And, as you pass cars going 75 mph you glance over and there they are with the propped against the wheel while they are trying to text. I’ve never figured out what actually happens if a text isn’t answered immediately. Does the phone self destruct? Does Scottie beam you up? What? And, how many selfies does the world need? Anyway, I’m off track here – great reminders. Happy 2018 to you and yours. 🙂
Wouldn’t it be nice if I never had to post this again… but something tells me there will be an updated version next year. And, please, no more selfies! Have a great 2018 Judy!
Perfect, Janis! I remember reading your similar post the end of last year. We should all be screaming this resolution off the roofs, because, you are right, no improvements seem to have been made, especially on the road. Can I add the part “Use common sense”? Because that seems to be missing often these days as well.
One of of the home owners Mark and I house sat for this past year had a sticker on his car saying “Don’t be stupid”. It can be interpreted in many ways. We all hate to be called stupid, and, even if we are not, we have to watch our backs, or our side view mirrors. 🙂
Wishing you and Paul a safe, healthy, happy and resolution-free 2018!
As they say, “there is nothing common about sense.” I need to get that bumper sticker… for everyone in the world (I wonder if Amazon would give me a bulk discount?). Best New Year’s wishes to you and Mark too!
Amen! Here is hoping for a couple less global disasters and couple less day to day stupidities!
Wouldn’t that be wonderful?! We certainly had an over-abundance of both in 2017. Thanks for commenting!
Janis, This is about the best post I have EVER read! I LOVE it! When I got to this phrase…”makes the poster’s stupidity evident to all 1,000 of their closest friends. Snopes.com and Factcheck.com are your friends. So are critical thinking skills” – I fell in love with you all over again!!! Yep, I’m pretty dang sure now that we could be besties, as I am forever hounding my friends – please, please, please consider media bias! Maybe I’ll just put it your way! How about we all “Don’t Be Stupid!” Thanks again for the Best.Post.Ever! ~ Lynn
You are sweet, Lynn… and, yes, if we lived closer I’m pretty sure we’d be having coffee together regularly. Let’s work together to remove all stupidity from the Earth in 2018!
Great post! Clever and rational. Good practical advice!
Thank you, Peta. Best New Years wishes to you and Ben!
One of my favourite new year’s posts! Some useful aide-mémoire and new life lessons. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you! Maybe this is the year we all will smarten up! 🙂
I especially appreciated the one about enjoying the glorious vista. I love music, when I go to a concert, especially an outdoor one I want to see the stage or at least the big screens and dance and clap and join in with the songs I know. These days it’s just a sea of cell phones held up so high that it feels like I’m a lone wolf dancing in a tunnel. I really wish the artists and promoters would ban them like they do at some comedy concerts, forcing the audience to be in the moment, participate and really enjoy the performance
I couldn’t agree with you more! Everyone has a cellphone and fancies themselves a videographer.
Reblogged this on Wanderlust and Wonderment and commented:
This post struck me as both timely and wise. Thank you, Janis!
Thank you so much for your kind words and the reblog!
Absolutely delighted to find someone who displays some sense amid the general madness. I also share your contempt for this common recurring stupidity:
I’m not sure I’d call it “contempt” but I haven’t seen much evidence that most resolutions stick. But, I appreciate the optimism that makes one feel that this could be the magical year!
I’ve not made a NYR for 30 or more years, but from this point on I will make an exception: to reduce the amount of plastic I buy/use and to be more ‘earth conscious.’
That is a great one… I may have to add “using too much plastic” to my stupid list next year!
Your thoughts could be included in a category I plan to create on the Benefits of Aging. They are so good that they are totally worth recycling, hopefully with tweaks to keep them current as you have done, year after year!
Thank you! I keep hoping that we all smarten up, but I’m afraid that I’ll be re-posting it next year 🙂 .
Here’s to 2018, a year of not being stupid! My question is, why is it so easy to be stupid and so hard to be SMART?
I guess if I were smarter, I’d know the answer to that! 🙂
Good ones. Now all we have to do is get people to listen…..
If you can help over on your side of the pond, I’d appreciate it. My hands are pretty full here.
This is a great post filled with common sense and wisdom. I especially like #4, been there, tried that and it definitely isn’t a key to happiness. I would also add to #7–don’t compare yourself with anyone. We are all unique and should celebrate our authenticity without making comparisons. Ive lived in a variety of cultures from China to the Middle East and now Larin America and its always interesting to observe the priorities set by each different culture. Thanks again for timely post!
Thank you for stopping by and commenting! Your addition to #7 is a good one… if I run this post again next year (assuming everyone doesn’t smarten up) I’ll make sure that’s included. I’m off to visit your blog… curious to find out where you are currently ex-patting.
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