Even those who deny climate change (or, at least the impact we humans have had) must have a hard time ignoring the wild swings of weather conditions the United States—and the world—has experienced over the last several years.

Those of us on the West Coast are in a severe, multi-year drought while those in other areas of the country have endured record cold temperatures. Now, I’m reading news stories about torrential rain and flooding on the East Coast.

Here in San Diego, fire crews are just finishing battling nearly a dozen individual wild fires that burned around 26,000 acres and required over 125,000 people to evacuate. Although California has had wild fires throughout the state’s history, this mix of low humidity, triple-digit temperatures, and hot, dry Santa Ana winds in May is most unusual… and troubling. No one is naive enough to think that we’ve seen the worst of it. This is just the earliest start of our fire season in decades. What we used to brace ourselves for in September and October could now be a threat year-round.

Our home was well away from the fires, but, along with so many others, we watched the scenes of the firestorms on the TV; cheering the heroics of the fire fighters as they battled the blazes in their attempt to save homes and lives. Because of their efforts, “only” around 70 homes were destroyed and no lives were lost (contrast that to 2003, when 2,232 homes were destroyed and 15 people died, and 2007 when 1,500 homes were lost and 9 died).

Now that most of the fires are fully contained the focus has switched from fighting the fires to mopping up and surveying the damage. It is heartbreaking to see the bewildered faces of people standing in front of what once were their homes. It is the same look seen after the devastating hurricanes, super storms, tornados, earthquakes, and so many other recent disasters we’ve witnessed.

As I look at photos of the fires’ destruction, I wonder how the people who have lost their homes will be able to bounce back after such devastation. Most of them say—and it’s true—that it’s only “things” and they are lucky to be alive, but I know how much all of the “things” that are in a home can make us feel safe, connect us to our past, and help us define who we are.

A word that I am hearing more and more in the aftermath of these disasters is “resilience” as it relates to systems, nature, and people. Andrew Zolli, the author of Resilience: Why Things Bounce Back described resilient systems as being able to “sense and respond to their own state and to the state of the world around them, compensate or dynamically reorganize themselves in the face of novel shocks, decouple themselves from other fragile systems when necessary, fail gracefully, and have a strong local self-sufficiency.” I think much the same thing could be said of people who are resilient.

I don’t believe that we either are or are not resilient. Some who are perceived as fragile by others can exhibit great resilience when faced with a personal challenge or devastating loss. Others, who may appear to be strong and stoic on the outside, might not be able to bounce back as well. Not everyone reacts in the same way to traumatic and stressful life events, but there are steps we can take to become more resilient in the face of adversity. A resilient person will still experience difficulty or distress, but their resilience can influence their ability to recover, persist, or even thrive amid disruption.

We all experience traumas in some form, whether because of a natural disaster, the loss of a loved one, the ending of a relationship or a job, or because of health challenges. What is important is to develop the tools—behaviors, thoughts and actions—now that will help us when we are faced with adversity. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), these attributes can be learned and developed by anyone. In order to increase our ability to be resilient, the APA suggests that we foster these important personal foundations*:

• Cultivate caring and supportive relationships, both inside and outside the family
• Nurture relationships that create love and trust, provide role models, and offer encouragement and reassurance
• Develop the capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out
• Maintain a positive view of one’s self and confidence in our strengths and abilities
• Develop skills in communication and problem solving
• Learn to manage feelings and impulses

We all will face increased challenges as we age; the death of loved ones, decreased physical capacity, perhaps a serious illness or even a natural disaster. Building our resilience now will help us better respond and adapt.

“If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces”

– Shane Koyczan

* This list paraphrases a list from the APA’s brochure The Road to Resilience.

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My blog is about travel, relationships, photography, and whatever else pops into my head (even, sometimes, issues surrounding retirement and aging).

7 thoughts on “Resiliency”

  1. What a wonderfully insightful and complex post. You covered everything from fire to chaos in one’s personal life to APA. Don’t get any more complete than that! I’ve had a fortunate life, but there have been setbacks that made me wonder if it was worth the effort to get back up again–of course I did, and I’m glad I did, but traumas can change and mold one’s character as well. Thanks for writing! L.

    1. Thank you! I’m never sure where I’ll end up when I start these things. There is a saying that goes something like, “Whatever doesn’t kill you will make you strong.” Getting back up after being knocked down is difficult, but always worth the effort.

  2. I live in Florida and have experienced more than my share of hurricanes. You are right in your assessment that people generally rise to the occasion when faced with adversity and that seems to be the majority. Unfortunately, I have seen the other side as well; the price gougers, looters and individuals that seek to gain from the misfortune of others. It all comes down to character and having those “personal foundations” in place. Thanks for the reminder to stay connected in a meaningful way.

    I have added your blog to my personal site for others to enjoy. You may visit me at (Life Out Loud) If you click my icon here, it will send you to a site I manage that is not my personal site. Just wanted to explain. I am enjoying your writing.

    1. Hi Suzanne. I checked out your blog and really enjoyed it! I tried to leave a comment but was unable to as a WordPress blogger for some reason. After doing a little research, it appears that if you add “Name and URL” as an option in your comment settings, WordPress bloggers will be able to comment. Anyway, I look forward to following you!

  3. I suffered a fire as a teenager and lost important things like photographs. Of course we bounced back and were just fine, but it wasn’t easy.

    1. I’m so sorry to hear that! To lose irreplaceable photographs is to lose an important connection to your past. I know someone who lost her house in the 2003 fires and is still struggling to put it behind her… it is definitely not easy.

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