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February 14, 2017 / Retirementallychallenged.com

GratiTuesday: My Funny Valentine

My husband cracks me up. He doesn’t tell a lot of jokes, not in the conventional sense anyway (“Did you hear the one about…”), but his silliness quotient is pretty high. In fact, he can be a total dork… and I love it.

Having a good sense of humor is one of the most important traits I looked for in anyone I’m going to spend time with, let alone live with. If someone can laugh at themselves and find the humor in less-than-humorous situations, it is a sign of self-confidence and flexibility. Who wants to hang out with anyone who needs to maintain a polished image or present their best self at all times?  People who generally feel good about themselves and aren’t too self-conscious are usually confident enough to be silly. And being silly is when life gets fun.

I love our inside jokes… some that date back to the first days of our relationship. I love how just one word or look can instantly recall a funny story that resides in both of our memories. I love how we riff off of each other when one of us starts a silly streak, and the other picks it up, adds to it, and then sends it back for more. I love how we can laugh at ourselves and – gently – laugh at each other, confident that we are safe in each other’s heart.

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We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day in traditional “Hallmark Holiday” ways; we don’t go out to dinner nor do we give each other gifts of flowers or chocolates. In fact, we spend Valentine’s Day pretty much like any other day… but that’s OK. As long as our day contains a fair amount of fun and a good dose of silliness, I have all the hearts and romance I need.

 

I am so grateful to my husband for bringing his special brand of joy and laughter into our marriage. I wouldn’t trade my funny valentine for any other.

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  1. Kate Crimmins / Feb 14 2017 11:42 am

    Wonderful tribute! I feel the same way about my husband. He did the flowers and dinner thing when we started dating but we have settled into something better.

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 14 2017 1:38 pm

      Flowers die and chocolate gets eaten. Laughing is good aerobic exercise, works off the calories (that’s my story anyway), and has lasting power.

  2. Kristine Puzel / Feb 14 2017 12:22 pm

    What a wonderful insight into your marriage, and one of the bonds that glues you together. And thank you for reminding us about what is really important! One of the best feelings in the world is when I make Sailor laugh, and he makes me laugh right back. Much more precious, and long lasting, than chocolate and flowers. Happy Valentine’s Day!

  3. Ally Bean / Feb 14 2017 12:38 pm

    I like the photo of your husband and the canon. Made me laugh out loud. Sounds like you two have a good fun relationship– which is far better than any old Hallmark greeting card.

  4. Anabel Marsh / Feb 14 2017 1:20 pm

    Love and laughter – the best recipe!

  5. puppy1952 / Feb 14 2017 1:30 pm

    So cool that you appreciate each other’s humour and have shared private jokes. That’s what it’s all about.

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 14 2017 1:48 pm

      I can’t imagine being in a relationship that didn’t include a large dose of fun. Private jokes are the best!

  6. Shelley / Feb 14 2017 1:40 pm

    Isn’t it great being able to feel like every day is Valentine’s Day?!

  7. Donna Cameron / Feb 14 2017 1:55 pm

    I’m with you. It’s wonderful to have so much shared history that even a word or a flash from the past sets us both off. Having someone to laugh with is so important that I had it written into our wedding vows that Bill had to make me laugh at least once a day. He’s still holding up his end of the bargain.

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 14 2017 2:12 pm

      What a great item to include in your vows! It sounds like laughter and general silliness is an important part of your marriage too. Happy Valentine’s Day!

  8. theunassuminghiker / Feb 14 2017 2:33 pm

    Humor is a wonderful thing to have in a marriage. And, I agree that you don’t need a date on a calendar to remind you of what you have all year long. So instead of saying Happy Valentine’s Day, let me just say – Happy Marriage!!

  9. Liesbet / Feb 14 2017 3:24 pm

    What a great tribute to a wonderful, smart and “funny” man! We are so glad and honored to have met your Valentine (and you, of course). For us, today is all about driving to our next house sit. But, we do it together, as a team, since day 1. 🙂

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 14 2017 5:21 pm

      On to your next adventure “… together as a team…” I like that! We also enjoyed meeting you and look forward to next time!

  10. snakesinthegrass2014 / Feb 14 2017 4:32 pm

    This was sweet! And absolutely, you cannot undervalue the worth of a sense of humor in a relationship. It gets you through the tough times and makes the happier ones full of memories. Great pics as always, Janice. – Marty

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 14 2017 5:25 pm

      Thank you, Marty. You are so right about a sense of humor getting you through the tough times – that’s when it’s the most difficult to maintain a smile… and the most important.

  11. Terri Webster Schrandt / Feb 14 2017 7:41 pm

    Aww, you guys are so cute! This is true love at its best! Happy Valentine’s Day to a fun couple 🙂

  12. Gabe Burkhardt / Feb 14 2017 8:53 pm

    My wife and I feel very similarly. (She would also probably agree that I’m a dork) Feb 14 for us is the day after Feb 13. Everyday is Valentine’s Day, and we are the better for it as well.

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 15 2017 11:18 am

      Just judging from your blog posts, I’m guessing you love to play and be silly too. 🙂

      • Gabe Burkhardt / Feb 16 2017 3:27 pm

        Ummm. It’s a lot easier for me to be vivacious and to paint my recollections in a more colorful light throughout the lens of virtuality.

        But yes, playing more and not being afraid to be silly, these are things I’m actively trying to incorporate into my life now that I (like you) don’t have to put on my “work face” anymore.

  13. jilldennison / Feb 14 2017 11:06 pm

    Sounds like a beautiful marriage! Congratulations … many go through life and never experience that.

  14. Joanne Sisco / Feb 15 2017 5:11 am

    Wonderfully said, Janis!! A shared sense of humour is powerful glue in a relationship 🙂
    I love the photos – they clearly show his fun side!! ❤

  15. laura bruno lilly / Feb 15 2017 6:06 am

    “…confident that we are safe in each other’s heart.”
    Sweet!

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 15 2017 11:22 am

      If you can’t be safe to mess up or be silly in front of your loved one, I think life would feel too stressful.

  16. PiedType / Feb 15 2017 1:21 pm

    What a sweet reminder that there are wonderful, happy, enviable people in our world! Some days I almost forget.

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 15 2017 3:42 pm

      I’d like to think there are more happy people than not, but maybe that’s just wishful thinking on my part. But you are right, there does seem to be a lot of unhappy people around lately… especially if you get too far into the comment sections of political news articles.

  17. Donna / Feb 15 2017 3:19 pm

    Gorgeous photos and an absolutely brilliant Valentine’s Day tribute!

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 15 2017 3:36 pm

      Thank you Donna! It was fun finding the goofiest photos I had of him (and there were many to choose from 🙂 ).

  18. Dr Rin Porter / Feb 17 2017 6:58 am

    Great tribute to your partner. I loved the photo of you two framed as a heart.

  19. joyroses13 / Feb 27 2017 2:23 pm

    I love this! You are so right about a sense of humor being so important! Most Definitely! It helps you get through the rough bumps in life and just adds more fun to life in general! Sweet post!

    • Retirementallychallenged.com / Feb 27 2017 4:00 pm

      Thank you! I think having a good sense of humor is one the top things to look for in someone you plan to go through life with. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  20. Good post! Funny is everything, I can’t imagine not being married to a funny man.

  21. Troy / May 25 2017 5:09 am

    It makes me laugh…

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